She must be the "queen" of your family. One child I guess, right? Have you ever tried reading with her books about sharing and good manner? After reading the story for a lot of times, when the bad temper incident occurs again, you may quote the characters of the story to remind her. This saves much of your energy to keep telling her not to do that and not to do this.
Suggest book: Momo is angry (in chinese and english, available in public library)
Suggest cd: Barney ... Best Manner (dunno whether it has book version)
Yes, she is the first grandchild in my husband and mine's family as well. We always tell her to be a good girl but seems that she don't want to follow.
Thanks myrchan. My girl loves reading story books. I will check the library.
She is too young to know how to express her emotion in words. I had similar experience with my 4 years old before. Then, I borrowed some books in library about how to communicate to young kids (2-4 yrs old), I have learned a lot by reading those books. Talking 道理 won't work for them. They won't understand.
I remember those books said that they do this because they don't know how to express, they thought that is right way to tell you what they want, draw your attention etc. So, you need to tell them from your behavior with simple instructions like No, serious facial expression of No, etc If no improvement, take her away from the location or distract her by saying things she likes or is interested etc. When she is older (like my 4yrs old), ignore her is better than keep talking 道理 (do you think she would understand all the words in your 道理?!), then she should know she did sth wrong. There are still many tricks or words you can use, borrow those books from library, there are a lot of advise and tips. No single way for all kids, each kid is unique and has own personality, you just need to learn when you go along. When they get older and understand better, it will be OK. I am still learning how to communicate well with my 13 years old too.
Also, make things as game is easier to teach her. That works for my little one too. Say you gave her biscuits, she wants the whole box. Instead of reacting negatively at once (opposite to her will), you can say "Wow, XX (her name) really likes biscuits, can you give one to mommy too" let her get one out from the box and give to you. If she did that, you should say Good girl (in exaggerating way) and clap your hands. They should be very happy now and know she has done sth good. Reward her with 1 more biscuit and then play her favorite toy....
Think about it is easier to teach them when they are in good mood rather than they are crying and screaming.....
For grandparents... sigh, I have the same issue at home, but I need to work, they are still better around than leaving my kid with the maid only!
發表於 2010-6-15 10:25
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