睡眠問題

maggieho

我女兒由出世到現在（２歲幾）都睡得不好.  時常半夜 E， E 聲和突然大哭，每早起牀時必定會哭．想問只否有問題，要不要去看醫生．

lisa95599

半夜突然惊醒哭，估计是白天玩得比较兴奋，不过，因为你说孩子一直都是这样，那估计就不止是玩耍的问题了，而是身体的问题了。所以还是要看看医生比较好。
我自己觉得看中医比较容易解决这个问题一些。
从中医的角度来看，应该属于气血不足，肌肤失养，所以睡得不好。
你的孩子估计还有胃口不好，挑食，容易感冒或者平时容易发脾气等等的可能吧。
建议你找一个好的中医看看。
另外，也可以学一些中医的按摩手法，临睡前帮她按摩一下，舒缓一下身体和神经系统。

vinuschan

My son is going to 3 years old, he has the same problem with your daughter, I don't know why he always cries and can't sleep well at night, I already tried many ways to help, i.e. body massage, foot massage, take a bath before sleep, make him tired and exhausted in day time but the problem has not yet been solved, that's why he is slim and difficult to gain weight, I am still seeking the solution for his sleeping problem.

anharstan

其實所有大人，小朋友都會半夜醒，只是看你會不會自己再睡返。 這個問題首先要看小朋友的睡眠習慣：例-自己睡 or 跟大人睡?  她知不知到是自己睡的? 如果是要大人抱/"tum"到入睡才放在小床，那她半夜醒來看不見大人，她就會大哭要找大人。
小兒現在16個月大，之前15個月都有同你女兒一樣的問題。但最近1個月已完全不需要找大人，因為他已經學會令自己再入睡。是有方法的，但大人要狠心點。。。 I've tried many other methods for the past 15 months and only this one works.  But first of all, you have to get the sleeping habit right.  Tell me more about how you put her to sleep so that I may be able to give you advice.

carrie1386

我阿仔三歲幾了，也是很難入睡，我一直都係睡前跟他說故事、傾解，是想他可以放鬆入睡，可是他總是好似越說越精神，越傾越有勁，幾乎晚晚都要個零兩個鐘先睡著，也試過按摩，可是都沒用。早排懷疑他有感覺統合問題，所以難入睡，但係接受治療後，仍然沒幫助。唔該請分享你個方法，我真係很苦惱，他就來返幼稚園了，晚晚咁夜睡，到時都唔知點算

anharstan

Carrie1386, your son's problem is that he doesn't want to go to sleep.  But my son is very easy to go to sleep, and his problem was he would wake up and cry at night.  Previously, whenever we put him down to his cot, he'd cry and cry. So that we could only put him to our bed, sleep with him, then when he fell asleep, we bring him back to his cot.  Every night he woke up and cried, we then had to bring him to our bed again and sleep until the next morning.  However, that's the past for us.  

The method that worked on my son is:
Follow all our usual routine (eg. milk, reading, washing, etc) before going to bed. Then I put him down to his cot, and I sit on a chair next to his cot and DO NOT LET HIM SEE MY FACE (facing back to him). He would stand up and cry and try to grab me.  But I just ignore him.  After a while, he realized that crying is useless, and he actually was sleepy..... then he lied down and went to sleep.  When he woke up at mid-night, I did the same, sit next to him and facing back to him.  By doing this, he knows YOU ARE THERE, so that he feels secured.

In my experience, I did this for one night (it took him about 25 min of crying and stand up and lie down and stand up and lie down....... 是有D心疼的), then the next night he didn't struggle when we put him to his cot, and didn't even wake up in the mid-night.  Now, I can hear he wakes up in the mid-night from time to time, and he may cry for a few seconds.  But he would go back to sleep after a little while.  We now also put a straw cup (water) next to his cot, and he would wake up in the mid-night and drink some water and go back to sleep on his own.

You can try this but you have to be stiff hearted and be patient.  It may takes you few weeks to work, but I think for his long term benefit, it is worthwhile.

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carrie1386

Thanks much, anharstan.  it's very useful.  I think it can be applied to both my son and daughter as well.  Thx again.

mandy

看見這個題目，我個心都酸一酸．．．其實仲有些痛．．．所以忍不住同大家分享．．．
我個仔由出世至兩歲，除了難入睡外，睡眠係極之極之極之差，無論午睡或晚睡，每隔大約十五至三十分鍾就會醒，即是話一晚可以閒閒地醒十幾二十次！！醒了，會哭鬧，有時重要用個幾鐘才令他再次入睡！他好像沒真正睡過般，非常可憐，而自己精神也接近崩潰，又知道這樣差睡眠可能會對他腦部發展有很大傷害的，心情真係不能形容．我當時看了中西醫近十個醫生（及用了千方百計，包括古方，使他筋疲力竭．．．．），但結果沒有幫助．因為他各方面反應都屬於正常，所以大部份的醫生都認為沒有必要作深入的研究．由大約兩歲至三歲時，就大約每晚會醒七至十次，到了現在近四歲了，大約會醒二至三次．
我其實只係想分享吓我作為媽咪，可以怎樣．．．．
我相信只有不斷的觀察，感受，你便會知道應該用邊一種或邊幾種方法去”應付”你小朋友睡眠時的問題，可能不同時段你自會找出有不同的方法，只要方法令你情緒改善，便用吧！因為一般方法，例如，”一定不可讓他睡在你側”，”要好忍心讓他哭”等，可能只會對”普通”程度問題的小朋友可解決，但如果真的是很差的個案，我覺得是未必有幫肋，只會對你構成壓力，除了安心去用你舒服的方法外，仲有一個最重要的就是一定要不斷要為自己打氣，對自己講，一定會好轉的，不去想壞處，現在他身體沒有出現問題便是沒事，已經幸福過真係有問題的小朋友，不用擔心不知將來，活在當下吧！雖然我個仔都真的比較瘦，但不用多想，只要現在沒大問題，身體健康，便放開吧！最重要其實係你自己心情！！要令自己心情轉好才是第一要解決的．講是很易，但我對大家有信心，（因為你們都會上eParent），我都做到，大家都一定得！！小朋友越大便一定會好轉！！放心吧！尤其當他們返了學．
當然，可以多問多些醫生意見，但如果醫生都沒有方法，那便自己比心機，要令自己情緒改善，大家一起努力吧！

vickywong

I agree with Mandy.  Use the method you think is the best method to BB.  Many people do not agree to hold BB when he cry.  I do not agree this method is not useful.  I also try to let him cry.  But the result is he will cry for an hour, cry loudly, face red. cannot sleep... So we choose to hold him and then he will sleep again after 15 miuntes or the most is half an hour.  The parent will know which method is the best to BB.  Besides, all mothers don't give up. Time will pass and BB will better in future.  Add oil la!