標題: Any suggestion for me to correct my kid? [打印本頁] 作者: myrchan 時間: 2010-3-10 14:20 標題: Any suggestion for me to correct my kid?
Every day my father in law brings my kid to kindergarten.
Today, once my kid left school, he ran and ran with his classmate in the corridor outside, not the first time, and I’ve warned him many times.
And this time my father in law fell down when chasing after him.
Although he didn’t hurt seriously, I want to let my kid to reflect on his wrong doing today.
I don’t want to scold at him.
How should I act when I see my kid tonite?
Any suggestion for me to correct my kid?作者: jackieee 時間: 2010-3-10 16:19
Usually kids love chasing each other and run a lot to let off steam, which is not a bad thing. However, if you think it's really dangerous to do it in the corridor, you can suggest him to do it in the playground. For the little episode, I would start by asking him what happened to grandpa who appears to be in pain and hurt. If he said he didn't know (typically he would). I would say I heard that he fell and ask why he fell. If he said he didn't know. I would say I heard he fell because he was trying to stop you from running in the corridor with your classmates as that's dangerous to both you and those who walk by. Corridor is a passageway for people WALK across from one place to another, not for chasing games. If you ran too fast and bumped into someone, you or that person might hurt so badly that you might not be able to walk again. If Grandpa hurt badly, no one would be there to pick you up from school. So if you want to run with your classmates, it's perfectly OK for you to run and chase in the garden or playground but not the corridor. Ask him "Can you handle it?". Usually kids cannot resist saying yes.作者: rainbowgloria 時間: 2010-3-10 16:41
start by asking him what happened to grandpa who appears to be in pain and hurt (keep silience)
say I heard he fell because he was trying to stop you from running in the corridor with your classmates (keep silence, then told me classmate "invited" him to run together)
explain the danger (keep silience, nodding)
request him to say sorry to grandpa (reluctantly did it)
Questions about kid:
你在唸幼稚園的小朋友有多大呢？ >> 4.5 yr old
另外，你說已經不是第一次，請問你是否介意多分享一些你之前的處理方法，讓我們看看如何可以做得更好呢？ >> explained that's dangerous to himself and others on the pavement
你「警告」的意思是甚麽呢？ >> if hurt others, other will become unhappy >> he even hurt himself (kneel bleeding) more than once
P.S. He loves to run, on pavement, on flyover, I'll permit if the condition is safe.
Reward~~
Weekly reward already offered for daily routine, e.g. brush teeth, get up on time, etc. Will it be too much ?作者: rainbowgloria 時間: 2010-4-1 15:14
