3歲男孩常哭鬧，應怎樣處理？

ireneho

孩子已經3歲3個月，是個沒有自信的男孩(班主任的評語)。經常扭計：早兩天早上問他要不要粟米片加奶，他說好(因他喜歡倒粟米片)，於是沖給他吃，但他却拒絕吃，當我正色地告訴他是他promise吃，他便倒在地上哭，起初我不理他，他便越哭越大聲，我告訴他不如吃粥，但他繼續大哭，然後起身把粟米片倒翻，我真的很氣，不理他但他哭了差不多1小時，期間外公罵他，他便跑過去要打外公，我阻止他，他說他很嬲想打媽媽，我告訴他不可打媽媽！他便發脾氣關入房再隔一會自已走出來，再繼續大哭。最後實在支持不了他的嘈吵，便氹他說下午去姨姨家玩，才收聲！今天一早起床又要扭落街買雞蛋仔，我說下午才有雞蛋仔賣，他又大哭，然後又不讓我返工，說媽媽唔好返工啦，又拉住我不淮我出門口，最後要給他吃糖，及由外婆抱入房我才可返工。

究竟孩子哭鬧時應怎處理？但他好硬頸，不肯聽解釋和道理(別的孩子可能會「順灘」些)！
究竟是要懲罰或是要氹他轉移視線？
但我們一家也在他哭鬧時沒有辦法，外婆更試過打他去stop他。
我實在心力交瘁，也很有挫敗感，我可以怎做？

jackieee

It seems he always gets what he wants at the end, so if I were you, I would...

1). Breakfast - when he refused to eat and cry, leave him alone without offering another choice.  Take the food back into the kitchen after 15 mins and send him to school (or get him to go onto the next scheduled routine) despite his crying.  When he knocked off the cornflakes, calmly put that back into the kitchen and ignore his crying.  Don't hit him.  When he hit, stop him before too late and tell him calmly "NO".

2). Leaving home to work - When he asked me not to go, I would comfort him by saying I would be back in the evening to play with him, and explain to him that I work to pay bills, buy food and drinks, toys and books, rent and car, etc.

I can appreciate that hearing kids cry and yell and shout can be very stressful but for our kids' longterm well-being, we have to persevere.  As long as they don't get hurt, don't give in to their crying and unreasonable demands.  

Cheer up and hang in there!  We all need to "Add Oil"!

ireneho

Thanks Jackieee very much!!! I will try!